Wednesday, 11 March 2015

How To Get Over A Bad Day

So, this post is about those pesky bad days: we all have them and we all live through them. I was inspired by a recent video I watched to do a post and share the ways I deal with bad days. Plus the reasons I have "bad days" too. If you're having a bad day while you are reading this, you're not alone and I hope this post helps.


Carli Bybel recently uploaded one of her “inner beauty” videos entitled How To Get Over A Bad Day, and although I agreed with a lot she said, some of it I didn’t agree with. So I thought I would share some tips with you on how I get over a bad day. The video I am referring to is below, so give it a watch, she makes some really great points that I will reiterate.


Firstly and possibly most important of all: the cause. Why are you having a bad day? What is getting you down? A low mood could be due to a number of possible reasons, maybe even more than one, you might think it’s because of something when actually it is about something else that you have pushed to the back of your mind. So really take your time and think about what it is that is getting you down.

To help, here are some reasons why I have a bad day and ways this can be avoided. Sometimes, I get up late, or skip my morning cup of tea and this leaves me groggy and anti-social. My biggest tip, therefore, is start your day right. Think of school and how almost always you had a set routine. I, for instance, would get up well before I had to leave the house, have some toast and tea while watching a funny programme meaning I went to school feeling alive, refreshed and happy. Just because you have left school, this doesn’t have to change. Make sure you set your alarm at a decent time, try not to fall into the habit of setting multiple alarms five minutes apart (I am very guilty of this), and aim to get out of bed as soon as your alarm goes off. Don’t set more than two or three alarms per morning. 


Tea is another massive factor for me. If I don't have time for tea in the morning, I might as well have not got out of bed. I am tired, grumpy, anti-social. I don't focus and spend the time between waking up and my first cup of tea in a dark cloud. If you have similar feelings about coffee or breakfast or showers in the morning, then always always make time for it. Otherwise it's just a waste. If you know what helps you engage then make the effort to do it. Drink the tea, basically.


Establish a routine, start your day with something good, listen to your favourite songs while you make breakfast or drink your daily green tea. Routines are good. Waking and sleeping at similar times throughout the week is good for your body, as it becomes aware of the predictable pattern and soon you won’t even need to rely on your alarm. If you struggle to look alive in the early hours, drag yourself straight to the shower and use a rejuvenating body wash or a fruity face scrub. The Vitamin C range from The Body Shop is great, and anything zesty or citrusy in a shower gel is ideal; this will awaken your senses.

For clothes and makeup, it helps if everything is organised. I very rarely make a great effort with what I wear, makeup included, because I prefer the extra snooze time but a friend of mine recently said that the way you dress affects your day massively. If you just rolled out of bed into the first pair of comfy clothes you could find, you travel throughout the day unwilling to talk to people just impatiently waiting to crawl back into bed again. So dress well, dress nicely, try out that new lipstick and don’t be afraid to experiment with your attire or your makeup. You will feel more confident and be braver at engaging in conversation with others. You should never waste a good outfit on a subpar day, so dress to kill every day and you’ll be motivated to make your day worthy of your killer clothes.



Other reasons I have bad days are arguments, if I am not getting on with someone in my life it reflects in my mood, so resolve arguments as quickly as you can. If you’re really angry about something, wait until a sufficient amount of time has passed and you have calmed a little. This way you regain perspective and are able to communicate your feelings in a less confrontational way. Try to be fair and reasonable and don’t say something you’ll regret. If this situation is really getting you down, write down your feelings, walk away and then read what you have written the next day. This might help you make a decision as to what you can do to fix the situation. Alternatively, if someone is mad at you for a legitimate reason, apologise. The later you leave it, the more damage it has the chance to do. We’re all in the wrong, sometimes.


For girls, especially, the time of the month can really turn your day into good to sucktastic. If you know that time is approaching, make sure you have the essentials on hand and I recommend you take painkillers with you wherever you go, you never know when you or a friend might need them. A hot water bottle and chocolate always helps me through this time. Salted caramel Cadbury fingers are incredible. Also, pamper yourself, usually if you feel shitty inside you feel shitty on the outside, so paint your nails, pop on a face mask, have a hot bath, do whatever makes you feel good. For me, that customarily involves watching Gossip Girl.


That is almost all the reasons I have a bad day, except for the days when I miss my family, or I just feel down about life, either I am overwhelmed by adulthood and all the work I have or I just can’t be bothered with anything. To kickstart you out of these moods I suggest something productive, either exercise or getting at least some of the work you have done. Make a dent in the massive workload you have, that is the best thing you can possibly do and make lists. Love lists. I have a whiteboard in my room and I get such joy out of ticking things off, it is a very satisfying feeling.


As for missing my family, or any other reasons you may have for feeling down that I haven’t mentioned distractions are the key. Distract yourself. I watch a Bollywood film when I miss my family because they are very long (three hours at least) and they remind me of my Mom and my sister. Plus, they all have amazing musical numbers and dramatic plotlines that can captivate you. If you want to watch a Bollywood movie just search Amitabh Bachan or Shah Rukh Kahn and you’ll find all the greatest films. Other distractions I can suggest are reading, books are a free vacation; music can be very therapeutic; making plans; going for a drive (like Carli suggested). For those of you that don't know, the woman below is Aishwariya Rai Bachan, possibly the most beautiful woman in the world and a pretty good actress.


Lastly, if you are feeling really down I don’t think there is anything wrong with taking a day for yourself where you cry a little, watch a sad movie, talk to your parents and spend some quality time with your bed and your favourite stuffed toy. If you feel sad you feel sad, trying to stifle your emotions will only encourage them to manifest in other ways. So if you have had a bad breakup, or just bad news, maybe you failed a test or you lost your wallet the last time you were out, you’re allowed to be sad and fed up. Just don’t forget to pick yourself back up and dust yourself off so you are as good as new. I don’t think anyone’s problems are insignificant, the world is a big, populated place but we are all part of it. Look after yourself.



Thank you for reading, I hope this post helped you in some way. Please leave a comment telling me what you think and what you do when you are having a bad day. Don’t forget to follow, and take care. 

Love ♥

Kiran
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