On Friday, I happened to complete the most dreaded task of the year: getting my hair cut. To understand the depth of this horror I’m going to have to share some hair history. I have always preferred my hair long. My hair is my favourite feature, all throughout my childhood it was so thick and luscious (hello, modesty), something I didn’t think about and brushed off when people mentioned it, but now years later I wish I had appreciated it.
I started losing hair throughout secondary school. Not noticeably to others, but to me it was conspicuous. There was also a dismal incident in Sixth Form where my hair got majorly tangled over a course of time, and my best friend armed with a fine comb attacked each and every knot in our History classroom while I cried. Friendship. My hair felt horribly thin at this point.
Years past and my last haircut, prior to Friday, was in March and I left the salon fighting a torrent of tears. By the time she was finished my hair felt so thin because she’d cut so many layers, that I couldn’t speak. I didn’t know what to do so I left and called my Mom. It was an awful week for me, for reasons I won’t get into, but this was the icing on the cake. The dam had broken and I cried in my room feeling helpless and ugly. It sounds so ridiculous, that my hair has such influence on how I feel about myself as a person. It is intrinsically linked with my level of self-confidence.
Unsurprisingly, I vowed never to get my hair cut ever again. People at work and my friends were really nice about it, in fact many of my co-workers commented on how “lovely and thick” my hair looked but I always received their remarks with incredulity. Were they on crack? Did they not see what I saw? The problem was I didn’t care how my hair looked to them I cared how it felt to me and it felt thin and fine. Like most vows, this one, too, was broken. My hair was begging for a trim so I bit the bullet and asked for recommendations. A friend suggested a salon and I finally experienced a haircut that didn't break my heart. Here are my tips for surviving a trip to the hairdressers.
- Firstly, if you are visually impaired like me, for God’s sake, wear contacts. The utter lack of control you experience when you are in that chair, hair dripping wet, fuzzy image of your reflection in front of your face is terrifying. I wore contacts this time around and this settled my nerves instantly, I could stop her if I wasn’t sure what she was doing and I could see how it looked every step of the way.
- Trust. Most of my friends and family have one person they trust to cut their hair, it’s like a brow specialist. I only have one woman in the world I trust to go near my brows and whenever I strayed I always regretted it and ended up spending a small fortune on brow products to fix their fuck-ups.
- Less Is More. The first thing I asked for was a trim, I think it is best to start small and then after you see how it looks see if you are ready for something different. I asked for an inch taken off the ends and then for an inch to be taken off my layers after scrutinising the result to add some more dimension.
- Honesty. Be up front and transparent, regardless of how much of a fool you think you will look. Explaining to a stranger how anal and paranoid I am about my hair was beyond embarrassing but it paid off. She reassured me throughout, and told me exactly what she was doing and why. She was kind, attentive and most importantly completely understood how I felt.
- Dry Cut or Wet Cut. Opt for a dry cut, as amazing as it feels to get your hair washed by someone else (it is pure heaven), this way you can see what your hair will look like in everyday life. What you will wake up in the morning with, not what it looks like after it’s been conditioned and blow dried to perfection. A famous stylist said that on a podcast I listened to recently and it makes so much sense.
Thank you so much for reading, please leave me a comment. I would love to read about your hair horror stories and preferences. Hoping I am not the only one who feels this strongly about hair (hangs head in shame). You can follow my blog via Bloglovin', all my links are below, to stay up to date with new posts, I certainly appreciate it. I also created a new Snapchat account, username: alittlekiran, let me know yours in the comments below. I would love to find some fellow beauty addicts to follow! I included hair inspiration photos from the IG account @bombayhair and celebrities whose hair is so poppin'. Obviously a lot of them wear extensions but this does not stop me wanting naturally thick Selena Pantene-commercial perfect hair. Take care.
Do you have any hair horror stories?
Love ❤
Kiran
Your hair looks beautiful and healthy, in my opinion! I would also recommend taking a picture of what you want because they could interpret something different. My worst hair decison ever has to be going silver. I loved it so much but I didn't want it for too long and three months after I changed it. I think all that damage wasn't worth it for the short period of time I had it. Now I'm still struggling with my hair breaking even after a year. It also made me cry a lot the first months but I knew tears wouldn't help me. I had to spend a fortune in haircare but at least it's way better now :).
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Thanks for sharing, I get super emotional about my hair too. Glad your hair is repairing now Cy! Thank you so much for reading xxx
DeleteI remember a few years ago, I had a different hairdresser who ended up cutting it my fringe so short, I was devastated! Especially as I was going out that evening. Now through recommendations I have a hairdresser I can trust. Less definitely is more! I think your hair looks lovely and shiny. :)
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DeleteYes, this is me! I didn't go to the hairdressers for years because they always cut it too short and didn't listen to me! I actually hated the dry cut I got one time but I now go to a hairdresser I trust (I think I have given her my fear) and am always happy with my trim :)
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DeleteGirl, you are crazy! Your hair is gorgeous! I do feel you about hair cut horror stories, I had my fair share of unfortunate incidents. These days I cut my hair maybe once a year and frankly I haven't really found a trustworthy hair stylist here in Canada. :-(
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DeleteYour hair looks gorgeous, I wish mine did look that good! I have a few of these horror stories and the last one happened just oer a month ago. Hairdressers don't seem to listen what you ask for and do the things what they think would look right, it happened many times and I lost my trust on hairdressers. From now on, I will only ask for trim then see how things go :)
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DeleteI actually cut my own hair... I'm terrified of letting someone else touch it! I've grown up with my mum cutting it so I haven't been to a proper hairdressers since I was a child.
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Thank you Alice! My Mum cut my hair until I was about 12-14, sometime in my teen years. So I understand how you feel, wish I could cut my hair, believe me I have attempted that on numerous occasions and although it looks fine to me it only takes one straightener to make me see how uneven and crazy my hair is haha xxx
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ReplyDeleteI'm so grateful that I got to read your blog before I got my hair cut. Well, you see, I was planning to have a hair cut too. Like, I want it really short. But I've never had a cut above the shoulders before, and I am really scared. Also, I think my hair tends to fly away whenever I cut it short such as on the shoulder length. I'm glad I was able to read this post, and I guess I'll have my hair cut. Thank you so much and your hair looks terrific! Hope to hear from you soon. :)
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Aw thank you! Your comment means so much to me, can't wait to see what your hair looks like! Xx
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear what happened to your hair, Kiran. I get what you meant by 'received their remarks with incredulity', I present myself to impress myself more than other people, I know they meant well, but sometimes it matters more what I feel than what they see me as.
ReplyDeleteAgree with the 'trust' part! I always go to the same hairdresser since I was in junior high, they already know how I'd like my hair to be, but one day I go this 'more expensive, more well-reviewed, high-profile hairdresses', and I didn't like how my hair turned out.
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