Wednesday, 9 November 2016

8 THINGS I ALWAYS NEED TO REMIND MYSELF OF


I don't write posts like this often but I thought taking a break from beauty and just talking about life might be a nice change. Here are some things I think it is important to remind myself now and again.

SOMETIMES YOU JUST NEED TO ENJOY THE MOMENT
With all the various forms of social media available we can forget to enjoy the small things without worrying about angles and flat lays and lighting. We focus so much on preserving or even displaying the memory that we forget to actually experience the moment happening right now. I'm not someone who snapchats at a club but how much fun are you really having if you're on your phone the whole time anyway? 

KNOW WHEN TO WALK AWAY
Not all relationships are going to stand the test of time, it is hard to accept that. It's hard to stop trying to hold onto something that once was so great. Sometimes you don't miss the person you miss the memories and it's important to note the difference. People change, it's not always a bad thing and although inevitably it will hurt at first it also gives you room for new relationships. 


GIVE PEOPLE A CHANCE TO PROVE YOU WRONG
When I am going through a tough time my automatic reaction is to turn inwards. I isolate myself and try to make sense of things in my own mind (hello insomnia), I become quite closed off and distance myself from friends because I don't want to show any weakness. I worry they won't accept me or that by revealing my problems and concerns it will change their perception of me. I am, more often than not, just projecting my own insecurities. At the end of the day, you chose them to be your friend for a reason so give them a chance to help you when you're hurting. They might surprise you. 

MOST OF THE TIME, YOU DO ACTUALLY FEEL BETTER IN THE MORNING
Never make big decisions in states of extreme emotion whether it be anger, despair or elation. I can't count the number of times that I have gone to bed feeling terrible thinking there is just no point to anything. I do most of my deep, what-is-the-point-of-life-we're-all-slowly-dying-anyway sessions before going to sleep. All the sad thoughts, memories and what-ifs swirl around my head until it feels like a weight is crushing me. It can get very dark and quite upsetting, but there is something about a fresh morning that invites you to wipe the slate clean even if you didn't get any sleep the night before. You realise dwelling on it won't change anything and maybe because of all the suffering and heartache in the world you owe it to yourself to try and make the most of this brand new day.


DON'T PUT YOURSELF DOWN, LIFT YOURSELF UP
Most of us, I think it is fair to say, are harsh self-critics. I don't know why we are so hard on ourselves. I think for me everyone else looks so easy going and well put together and just happy, whereas I do not feel anywhere close to that and as a blogger I feel like such a fraud. When I think about all the things I would change about myself I get angry and frustrated. I want to be comfortable in my own skin and constantly reminding yourself how everyone else is thinner, smarter, funnier really isn't going to help. Treat yourself like you would treat your friend. Be your own cheerleader.

BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE
Just like we have things we want to change there are most likely parts of ourselves that we actually do like and I promise you that those  are the things that really matter. Your values, your determination and work ethic, how much you love your pet and the way you treat strangers. Even music taste or your selfie-snapping ability. However inconsequential it may seem all these little things make up who you are and there is no-one out there like you so be proud to be you. You're the only one. 


YEAH, YOU MIGHT FAIL BUT TRY ANYWAY 
I've always felt that giving up is one of the worst sins but not trying for fear of failure is like not leaving the house in case it rains. I have learnt more about myself trying and failing than I have succeeding in life. The more things you try the more courageous you become, in my opinion.

ONE DAY, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE A DOG AND IT'S GOING TO BE OKAY
This is my favourite reminder of all time. I have wanted a dog forever, I used to take out library books on raising a pet and how to educate your Labrador to prove to my Dad what a conscientious dog owner I would be. Needless to say it didn't work and to this day I do not have a dog but I know one day I will and the impending happiness I am going to feel on that day is enough to warm my cold dead heart when its going through the struggles and trials that post-uni life often throws at you. 


Thank you for reading, please share your favourite reminders in the comments below and let me know of any future posts you would like to see. Hope you're having an amazing week. Take care. 

What helps you put things into perspective?

Love 
Kiran

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44 comments

  1. Great post Kiran, its good to put things in perspective sometimes. I find I need to stop overthinking sometimes x
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  2. Nice post and text. Sometimes it's important to be "carefree" to enjoy life! xx
    Trend-Mae

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  3. Ah they're all so lovely and so true! Thank you for sharing, feel like I really needed it today!

    Patricia // Patricia Stelmach

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  4. Girl, get a dog!!!! You will feel so happy, it's like having a baby that never grows and he will make you feel amazing. I have a german shepherd and I could not imagine my life without him! He is caring, loyal, brings joy to our lives!
    Life is hard and we must cherish every moment, and sometimes are the little things that make us happy!

    Yiota
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    1. I know, I definitely need a dog. Thank you for reading! Xx

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  5. This is brilliant, I often remind myself not to take things personally especially in blogging industry people can be really mean

    Beauty Candy Loves

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  6. This was beautifully written. We all need to give ourselves a little encouragement every now and then. I always have to remind myself to be thankful. It's easy to get caught up on focusing on all the things we don't have.

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    1. Thank you so much, definitely agree! Xx

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  7. Love this post and text! <3 Thanks for share it with us!
    xx
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    1. No problem, thank you so much for reading! Xx

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  8. Nicely written, Kiran! I tend to follow all of these, but I do forget when times get a little rough. Thank you for visiting my blog, I really appreciate it ^_^

    Laila from Townhouse Palette

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    1. I love your blog! Eagerly await your next post, followed you on Bloglovin' xxx

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  9. I agree with what you said. Great reminders!

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  10. Sometimes you do have to pick yourself up and in many cases the only person standing in your way is you so positive attitude is the best thing! Love the last pic from elf : ) x
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    1. Haha couldn't not include it, sums me up to a T xxx

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  11. Wait till the mornings with important decisions, I agree on that. Everything looks worse at night. Oh, and we always had a dog growing up, and I kind of miss having one around. Maybe I´ll get one in the future, let´s see.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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  12. I loved reading your post and everything you say is so true.
    Totally agree about the decisions made in the morning, our mind is clearer and we see life much more positively!

    Laura | http://www.furiouslychic.ch/

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    1. Will do Kristine, thank you for reading xxx

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  15. I love inspirational posts like this.. Such a great motivation boost :)

    TheNormcoreRebel

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    1. Thank you! Glad you found it helpful xxx

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  16. This was such a good post! I need to remind myself of these more :) xx

    LPage Beauty

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  17. i love this post!! Thank you for the uplifting reminders!

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  18. I love this, very inspiring and eye-opening. Giving a chance to prove myself is something I rarely do, but I guess it's one important step that I must face. Thank you.

    Selene Addicted

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    1. My pleasure, so glad you enjoyed it. Thank you so much for reading xxx

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  19. interesting :)
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  20. "be proud of who you are' Is definitely a good one! I feel like the media and social media has made it a trend to kind of not like yourself and try to be something else. We're all awesome and imperfect and human. I loved that last one as well, dogs make the world go round haha.

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  21. These are such great reminders, I love the part about lifting ourselves up.
    xo
    Siffat
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  22. I absolutely love this post! the 'most of the time things are better in the morning' is so true, a good night sleep can definitely make things seem not as bad x

    Liz | LotsofLoveLiz

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  23. This is such a lovely post! I definitely agree with all of these. I love the one about lifting yourself up and one day it's going to be ok. That really makes me feel good xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

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  24. This is such a well-written post, absolutely love your thoughts, girl!
    Nati xx
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  25. Oh my god I feel your pain with the dog, I want one so so bad but I am still living at home so I can't have one just yet.. but some day! I am always loving your blog too, keep up the aaamazing work lovely lady! x

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