Sunday, 26 March 2017

LAZY SUNDAY | UNREALISTIC BEAUTY IDEALS


Currently, I am in France celebrating my friend's 23rd birthday, when did we all get so old? It is also Mother's Day in the UK so a very Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers out there. I hope you have been pampered and adored and that your children continue to show you the same love and appreciation throughout the whole year. Today's post is different in that I just want to talk about the pressure of looking perfect. Recently I created a few looks to go up on my post and I was bombarded with all the tools at my disposal to change anything I wasn't happy with. To obtain the unattainable. Namely, looking perfect. A few months ago I watched a video by Wayne Goss (see below) that really opened my eyes as to how sneaky and underhand society can be. Not to forget that I am a beauty blogger, makeup and skincare are all things I love but when you get to the driving force behind the marketing it just makes me feel like an idiot. With each product they push they are reinforcing the idea that you're not good enough as you are, or maybe you are good enough but hey you could be better. You can watch the video I am talking about below and although Wayne talks about a specific video I realised how heavily everything we see is edited. People's videos, photos, even their Snapchat stories. Everything has been arranged just so, a filter has been applied, pores have been blurred. To make it clear I don't have an issue with anyone who does any of these things, my sole concern is the need  to do these things. It is our normal and it has been this way forever, all photography in magazines is airbrushed and tampered with and I just wish that this didn't have such a huge impact on us all.


I have listened to countless YouTubers talk about how they edit their photos, how they make their eyes bluer and their skin smoother. They use lights and great cameras to create amazing videos that are visually pleasing and their talent shines through regardless of editing, but the end result isn't reality and it is so important that we all realise that. What was once seen in between the pages of glossy magazines is now literally everywhere and I wonder why I feel lacking when I look in the mirror. The cardinal rule of blogging is to not compare yourself to others, well I call bullshit. Who doesn't compare themselves? Even in positive ways, competition and peers are a good thing in my opinion. They push you to do better and inspire you to improve. I don't blame society and Facetune solely for the lofty beauty ideals most of us aspire to reach, a lot of it already existed. Those that are more aesthetically pleasing seem to get further in life, seem to be happier in their own skin. I do believe with age comes clarity and I am at an age now where I absolutely do not want to feel this way about myself anymore, but I have no idea what to do about it. I won't stop watching YouTube videos or unfollow supermodels on Instagram. The change has to come from within


We're lucky in the sense that most of us are aware of the behind the scenes part of the blogger and vlogger world, but when I think about the younger children and girls that idolise some of these YouTubers I worry because they don't. Soon, I feel like we will all have virtual reality filters so we can look our best all the time and then I can stop moaning.  I hope this post made sense to you and I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject. This isn't supposed to be a negative post, I just wanted to see if anyone else freaks out about how artificial everything we see is. Take care. 

What are your thoughts on unrealistic beauty ideals?

Love 
Kiran


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  1. I think you need to view social media with the view of it is all perfect. No one is going to put the hurt and ugly onto something like that, so its important to remember it isn't real. But I can understand that younger girls maybe won't look at it like this, which is a shame :(

    Erin || MakeErinOver

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  2. Of course everything we put out there is not real life, everything is edited since we want only the best result. When you think about it, it is a shame since we believe others are better than us or live a better life which sometimes is not true and we put pressure to ourselves. Great post!

    Yiota
    PinkDaisyLoves

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    1. Exactly what I was trying to say! It took me a whole post haha x

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  3. I hate unrealistic beauty ideals. A MUA I know does makeup on a lot of brides and they always say that want to look like X celebrity or Youtube star and she hates it.

    Jennifer
    Effortlessly Sophisticated

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  4. Such a wonderful, important post, lovely! I hope that many people read this. I think that in this day and age, people in general are more aware of just how unrealistic some of the beauty standards pushed by the media are. That doesn't stop them from doing that, though! Still, I am still happy to see more plus-size models (actual plus-size!) around, and I think that we are heading in the right direction. Still years until we get there, though! Hope you're having a fab week so far, beauty. xoxo

    Kay
    http://www.shoesandglitter.com/

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    1. Thank you Kay, and yes I hope we are heading in the right direction but with the introduction and impact of "social media stars" I don't think we are, thank you for commenting x

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  5. I bet you're having a great time! Enjoy! I agree, so many are creating a false image of themselves. I'm all for improvements, but "doctoring" pictures and such is not real. This has been an ongoing issue.
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

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  6. I love that you have gone and said this!
    I love being a beauty blogger, and I try to keep my blog and social media channels as 'real' as possible, but I know what goes on behind the scene of each picture I publish.
    Sometimes I feel so materialistic for being a beauty blogger, and in a small way, adding to the problem...

    Kez | acaciasdreams.com

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    1. I know exactly what you mean it makes me feel like I am part of the problem but I always do my best to be as real as I can and that is all you can do, the sad thing is that now your readers kind of expect a certain level of perfection in your photos and looks because that is what they are used to seeing xxx

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  7. Oh gosh if you think 23 is old you must think as me as a dinosaur and I'm only 30 LOL! Anyways it doesn't matter who you are, I think we all compare ourselves to others. I think many people have a hard time realizing everything that people put on Instagram are the high points in their life and that it's not an everyday thing. I've never given into the whole obsession with models and celebs ever so I can't completely understand it...all I know is they got money so obviously they are able to look like that 24/7 lol. Great read girl!

    Stacey, thebambieyes.com

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    1. Haha well said and I don't think you're old I just feel really old considering I am nowhere near where I want to be in my life. Xxx

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  8. So nice to celebrate the birthday of your friend! And yes, the video is so good - and how naive and stupid I am, I never knew that people could make their eyes appear bluer! I have dark green eyes that seldom appear with the real color in pictures, but it's fine - after all, which difference does it make if our eyes are green, blue, brown? I really don't get why some people want to appear lighter. We are all amazing the way we are, and the fashion industry is making people have twisted minds (I had a friend like that, so twisted, comparing even her skin level of whiteness to others) and so inadequate. It's not healthy! Great post! Wishing you a lovely day!
    DenisesPlanet.com

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    1. It is honestly incredible what you can do now with just your phone and a few apps, but at the same time scary. You can make yourself look completely different to how you really are and I think that just adds to everyone's insecurities xxx

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  9. I totally agree with you! I don´t mind that we use makeup and everything to look a little bit better, it´s actually a good and very much fun thing to do. It becomes a problem when you can´t go out of the house without having done your makeup or when people don´t realise that it´s not real. What has become a normality for bloggers & vloggers to know leaves normal people baffled. My friends didn´t even realize that many of the pictures on Instagram are paid for/sponsored by brands. I think raising awareness for what goes on behind the scenes is definitely necessary in that aspect so that it gets clear where the line between good editing and reality is.
    xx Lisa | Following Lisa

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  10. I remember watching Wayne's video and kind of thinking "oh shit." I mean I knew that Youtubers used quite fancy lighting set ups and diffusers and things like that, but I was completely unaware that actual filters were being used! I mean in a way it makes me feel a bit better though, I find it really difficult to edit photos of myself because I'll always notice my 'flaws' and compare myself to other people's photos of themselves, but when you're aware of things like this it really makes you reconsider and be a bit easier on yourself.

    I don't blame anyone for using filters or doing things like that if it makes them feel better, but I would love if people could be more transparent about it so that at least people are aware and don't try to compare themselves to that, if that makes sense.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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  11. I 100% agree about everything you've said, the unrealistic beauty is something that is becoming normal in today's society (what a shame) ,it's insane how people can fake their whole appearance yes it does freak me out

    todaysouhaila.blogspot.com

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